Let’s get you to the first date faster.
Are you looking for a nice partner, but don't know how to make the first contact? Would you like to have more dates, but find it difficult to ask someone out? Then we have good news for you! We interviewed a dating coach who can help you initiate a first date faster. Read on and discover his advice!
Who are you and what do you do as a dating coach?
I'm Pieter, a dating coach with over 10 years of experience. I help people to increase their self-confidence, improve their social skills and enrich their love life. I give workshops, online courses and personal coaching to singles who are looking for a relationship.
What do you think is the biggest challenge for singles looking to initiate a first date?
The biggest challenge is to overcome the fear of rejection. Many people do not dare to ask someone out because they are afraid of being rejected. They don't think they're fun, attractive, or interesting enough. That's not true, of course, but it's a limiting belief that you have to let go of.
How can you let go of that fear of rejection?
There are several ways to do that, but the main one is to change your mindset. Instead of thinking that you have to achieve or prove something, think that you want to discover or share something. After all, you want to know if there is a click between you and the other person, and if you have something in common. You also want to show who you are and what you have to offer. If you do that, then asking someone out will not be a test, but an invitation.
What are the best tips to invite someone on a first date?
The best tips are:
- Be clear and direct. Say what you want and why. For example, "I really like you and I'd like to know more about you. Would you like to have a drink with me?"
- Be enthusiastic and positive. Show that you are looking forward to it. For example: "How nice that you say yes! I'm really looking forward to getting to know you better. When is it convenient for you?"
- Be flexible and creative. Take into account the preferences and availability of the other person. For example, "What do you like to do? I'm open to anything. I can do next Tuesday or Thursday, what suits you best?"
- Be respectful and kind. Accept it if the other person says no or has doubts. For example, "Too bad you don't have time, but I understand. Maybe another time then? I hope you have a good day."
With these tips, you can initiate a first date faster. Good luck!